First of all, I’d like to say I am not an expert, nor am I a midwife, doctor or nurse. This post is based on my experience and anyone who wants to practice anything I did should first consult their doctor.
With that being said, I honestly can say that women are capable of having a successful birth. What is having a successful birth? to me it’s one where you’re not in labour for hours and hours. Where you deliver your child without any assistance apart from when the midwife tells you to push.
BE PHYSICALLY FIT
This was pretty much my experience with JJ and I can’t wait to share with you the difference between my two births later. I worked out whilst I was pregnant with JJ up on till it was time to give birth to him. I attended aqua Zumba classes every Wednesday, swam once/twice a month, went to the gym during the early stages of my pregnancy and walked! walked! walked! But before we decided to have a child I was going to the gym twice a week and even had a personal trainer for a year previous to finding out I was pregnant. This helped me not to get a swollen nose or feet, I pretty much looked the same before and after.
A lot of newlyweds get carried away when they start the journey of marriage. Y’all females be cooking your great grandma’s recipes like your husband has never been fed in his life or tasted good food. Especially my fellow Nigerians, pounded yam today, ogbono soup tomorrow, concoctions that not even your mum was cooking for your dad lol which you indulge in as well. I’m not saying we should not eat any of these things but even if you aren’t having kids straight away, our bodies as women should be fit and ready for when that time comes. I hear some females saying they would lose weight when they are ready, erm your forgetting you will still put on weight during pregnancy. So its better to be fit now than to find it hard to lose weight later.
I believe in the power of positive thoughts and words. Do not try and think about how that day will go, in the form of anxiety. I made sure I had a positive attitude and mind towards child birth, even though I watched ‘one born every minute’ everyday lol. Don’t try that if you aren’t strong enough lol. I prayed everyday committing that unknown day when I would give birth, to God. Asking him to help me through the contractions and birth. Asking him to for the right midwives to be around to help. Honestly if any of you are expecting start asking God for what you want to happen that day and it will.
When you have antenatal classes, they tell you to make sure you listen to the midwife during delivery. If y’all don’t want to tear, LISTEN to the midwife. Block the pain out and focus on what your being told to do. I’ve had two boys and no tear, so I guess its safe to say that has helped. I also discovered rubbing olive oil on the virgina everyday twice a day from at least a month before your due date which I believe is around 36 weeks prevented tearing. If your reading this and your due tomorrow, girl still give it a try and rub it on every hour lol. Please obviously be hygienic about it. Use a cotton wool or get hubby to do it hahahaha
So, to sum up my successful birth:
- Have a positive mind set, even through that pain
- Be physically fit before and during pregnancy
- Rub olive oil on virgina (major key to not tearing)
- LISTEN! To your midwife during labour and delivery
- Drink plenty of water and make the loo your best friend lol
And that’s it, easy peasy lol I really wish everyone could have the same experience as I did and just wish you the best for your big day. If any of you have any questions comment below or send me an email.